The key to a great relationship

There was a time when I thought I would be on my own for the rest of my life. I did not understand who I was back then. In those days, I took pride in knowing that I could make it through life on my own. I did not think I would need someone to help me through the tough times in life. Then one day it seemed to all change.



It was a bad time in my life. I felt like I was a dissapointment to all my friends and family. When I finally started to truly discover who I was I did not feel like anyone understood me. Ever since, I tried to fill that void in my life by persuing romantic relationships. I started to dedicate my whole life to find 'my one true love'. I had this perfect idea of what this relationship would look like. It got to the point where all I cared about was for search for that one 'magical' relationship that would solve all of the problems in my life. I thought that as long as I could be with my(a) boyfriend, I would be fine and happy. I guess I was tired of being the 'strong one'.



I guess I was looking for an easy way to be happy. I figured that I could find happiness from what others can give me. At one point I believed that I could not find happiness at all. In reality, happiness doesn't come from others, it has to come from within. I knew I had to start changing my perspective on life.



As I started finding myself again, I met one of the most amazing people in my life. My current boyfriend :) I haven learned so much from him. I have been able to grow emotionally throughout our relationship. I have learned the importance of persuing one's dream and how to find a balance in your life between a relationship and your goals in life. I now have a different view on what would be the perfect relationship along with the ideal husband.



I once thought that my eventual life partner would be all I need to get through this life, no matter how bad I fail at anything else in life. Although it is true that a great relationship means reliance on one another, it does not mean that the whole relationship should be one sided. The person I am looking for as my husband is someone that will be there to help me out in time in need. He is someone that I can share my life experiences with and learn new things with. We are supposed to compliment each other.



Which means I need to be the same way. I need to follow my own path in life and enjoy myself. I need to set my own goals, have my own ambitions and achieve my own accomplishements. If I have nothing to bring to the table, then that means no one would want me. I would have nothing to share with that special someone and there wouldn't be a way to deepen our relationship. I need to be just a strong and equal to my partner in regards to motivation and outlook on life.



In the end there can not be just one 'great guy' in the relationship. We both have to be people to aspire too. We both have to be strong willed and motivated. That is the key to a great, longlasting, healthy relationship!